Many people are in turmoil. Families are in crisis. A friend of mine asked a sitting of psychics how to help these people. How could she comfort friends as she watched their lives fall apart?
Two major answers came through: show compassion and bear witness. An admonition also came through: Don’t get involved in the details, drama, or energy of the situation. You will get hit by flying debris.
Friends come to us with their problems. They may be going through horrible situations which are destroying their families. Even when we are prepared to be of support, we may find ourselves speechless. We don’t know what to say. It looks like these people have done all of the “right” things. Whatever is happening seems unfair.
At the same time, we remember that every person, and every family, projects a face. We never know what goes on behind the scenes.
Eventually, these shaken people may find that the crisis has opened a doorway to a different kind of life. They may be mid-stride into their personal evolution. Their adversity could be a catalyst for something new. Who are we to interfere with their momentum? If we help too much, they may have to start the process all over again.
Instead of intervening, we can send them strength to handle whatever comes. We can send light and love, and hold a space for their healing. We can talk to their Higher Self and try to understand what is happening. Sometimes, people can’t hear their friends because they are so busy figuring out how to proceed. However, their Higher Self can still hear and can feel the love.
A few ideas were channeled regarding this issue:
1) Bearing witness is important. Sometimes, that is all we can do. Being present in a non-judgmental way, without doing more, does not make us heartless. Overextending ourselves does not make us noble.
2) Think of a rose bush which has been blooming beautifully for ten years. Suddenly, a side of the bush gets fungus. The bush may need to be pruned. Initially it appears injured, but it will soon blossom in a different direction.
Personal crises can act as a pruning. Although they look cruel, they can reshape the direction of a person’s energy. Re-directions may look like implosions with loose ends and shrapnel, but breaking apart may be necessary for growth in a new direction.
3) The Guides said: “Honor, respect, and value the process that it takes for them to step out of their comfort zone. Whether it was gently nudged or without their conscious permission, all are where they need to be to create what is to be. You have been in similar situations. You grew and you blossomed.
“All of you look back at your family trees, at the situations in which you thought, ‘Oh my goodness, this is the end of an era.’ And yet it was the beginning of so much more. People found where they needed to be. People found their own strength in their own way. No pressure, no diamonds.
“Allow. Speak to the Higher Selves. Be a presence. Know that bearing witness as you watch those trees re-blossom and bring fruit will reaffirm within you the knowing of divine order and divine perfection. You create your own universe, your own space, as do they.”
4) Creation is a personal thing. While we create our own experience, we cannot create the experiences of others. Our lives are our responsibility. Their lives are up to them.
5) Guides: “There are individuals who believe that they are the role they are living and would not know who they were if they were not living that particular role. Sometimes it takes situations which appear dramatic in order to jar the individuals out of their regimented positions or roles in life, and who they believe they are, so they can look deeper within themselves and see that their source, their being, their core, is not the role which they are manifesting on this physical earth. That role is but one aspect in which they display their true core self. Had it not been for these extreme situations, they would never seek further within themselves to know who they are.
“They see themselves as care givers, as parents, as role models. They do not see themselves as Spirit, as love incarnate, as precious solely by being. They see their places in life as what they do or contribute, or the role that they play, until it is so stifling that they cannot blossom in that environment any longer and must come apart at the seams in order to set everyone free to find their basis, their core, their strength, their energy within themselves; to see who and what they truly are and not just the roles they are at this point in their lives.”
So what do we do when a friend’s life looks like it is falling apart?
Bear witness, show compassion, send Light. Know that this stage will pass; understand that they are on their personal path to soul growth. Don’t try to fix it. Don’t get too involved. Witness the anguish and the progress, as they move through the muck. Encourage them as they achieve a new life stage.
Appreciate all that is going well in your life. Gratitude and acknowledgment help you stay strong so you can enjoy your life, while sending compassion and love to your friends.
gail@MyPsychicSearch.com
Two major answers came through: show compassion and bear witness. An admonition also came through: Don’t get involved in the details, drama, or energy of the situation. You will get hit by flying debris.
Friends come to us with their problems. They may be going through horrible situations which are destroying their families. Even when we are prepared to be of support, we may find ourselves speechless. We don’t know what to say. It looks like these people have done all of the “right” things. Whatever is happening seems unfair.
At the same time, we remember that every person, and every family, projects a face. We never know what goes on behind the scenes.
Eventually, these shaken people may find that the crisis has opened a doorway to a different kind of life. They may be mid-stride into their personal evolution. Their adversity could be a catalyst for something new. Who are we to interfere with their momentum? If we help too much, they may have to start the process all over again.
Instead of intervening, we can send them strength to handle whatever comes. We can send light and love, and hold a space for their healing. We can talk to their Higher Self and try to understand what is happening. Sometimes, people can’t hear their friends because they are so busy figuring out how to proceed. However, their Higher Self can still hear and can feel the love.
A few ideas were channeled regarding this issue:
1) Bearing witness is important. Sometimes, that is all we can do. Being present in a non-judgmental way, without doing more, does not make us heartless. Overextending ourselves does not make us noble.
2) Think of a rose bush which has been blooming beautifully for ten years. Suddenly, a side of the bush gets fungus. The bush may need to be pruned. Initially it appears injured, but it will soon blossom in a different direction.
Personal crises can act as a pruning. Although they look cruel, they can reshape the direction of a person’s energy. Re-directions may look like implosions with loose ends and shrapnel, but breaking apart may be necessary for growth in a new direction.
3) The Guides said: “Honor, respect, and value the process that it takes for them to step out of their comfort zone. Whether it was gently nudged or without their conscious permission, all are where they need to be to create what is to be. You have been in similar situations. You grew and you blossomed.
“All of you look back at your family trees, at the situations in which you thought, ‘Oh my goodness, this is the end of an era.’ And yet it was the beginning of so much more. People found where they needed to be. People found their own strength in their own way. No pressure, no diamonds.
“Allow. Speak to the Higher Selves. Be a presence. Know that bearing witness as you watch those trees re-blossom and bring fruit will reaffirm within you the knowing of divine order and divine perfection. You create your own universe, your own space, as do they.”
4) Creation is a personal thing. While we create our own experience, we cannot create the experiences of others. Our lives are our responsibility. Their lives are up to them.
5) Guides: “There are individuals who believe that they are the role they are living and would not know who they were if they were not living that particular role. Sometimes it takes situations which appear dramatic in order to jar the individuals out of their regimented positions or roles in life, and who they believe they are, so they can look deeper within themselves and see that their source, their being, their core, is not the role which they are manifesting on this physical earth. That role is but one aspect in which they display their true core self. Had it not been for these extreme situations, they would never seek further within themselves to know who they are.
“They see themselves as care givers, as parents, as role models. They do not see themselves as Spirit, as love incarnate, as precious solely by being. They see their places in life as what they do or contribute, or the role that they play, until it is so stifling that they cannot blossom in that environment any longer and must come apart at the seams in order to set everyone free to find their basis, their core, their strength, their energy within themselves; to see who and what they truly are and not just the roles they are at this point in their lives.”
So what do we do when a friend’s life looks like it is falling apart?
Bear witness, show compassion, send Light. Know that this stage will pass; understand that they are on their personal path to soul growth. Don’t try to fix it. Don’t get too involved. Witness the anguish and the progress, as they move through the muck. Encourage them as they achieve a new life stage.
Appreciate all that is going well in your life. Gratitude and acknowledgment help you stay strong so you can enjoy your life, while sending compassion and love to your friends.
gail@MyPsychicSearch.com
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