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Thursday, March 31, 2016

Funeral Costs

Announcement: The Mystic Messengers Psychic Fair will be this Sunday, April 3, at the DoubleTree Inn on South Alvernon Road in Tucson, AZ.

Things you didn't know you wanted to know: Funeral Costs

In the market for a funeral? Too squeamish to look into this yourself? Too morbid? Let me tell you what happened as I looked into "preplanning." I wanted to understand what was involved, and to be ready if I received that dreaded phone call telling me it was time to contact a funeral home.

In the moment of grief, when a loved one has passed, we will do anything, sign anything, to have the body gently prepared for burial or cremation. We will call a funeral home, be grateful for assistance, and make the arrangements we believe our loved one would appreciate.

What we may not realize is that many mortuaries and cemeteries (M/C) are for-profit businesses.

Today, I want to share my experience of visiting two M/Cs "just in case." I don't know if these places are representative of all M/Cs, or if I stumbled into a unique situation. I'm just telling you what happened.

Mortuary/Cemetery A is a large, established, 100 year old facility in the middle of Tucson, AZ.

Mortuary/Cemetery B is a new, small facility on the outskirts of town, in what they call "the countryside."

At both M/Cs, I met with kind, professional, knowledgeable women. They had taken the time to learn about different religious traditions relating to the end of life. The big difference in the facilities was cost.

To be clear, two separate functions are provided. The mortuary staff picks up the body and prepares it for burial or cremation. They pull permits, arrange for death certificates, oversee memorial services, provide a casket, arrange the financial aspects, and accept payment. Financing is available.

On the cemetery side, staff opens the burial plot, buries the casket with the body, installs a dome liner (if necessary) so the top soil doesn't cave in and become uneven, and closes the grave. Eventually, a headstone is erected.

Sometimes mortuaries and cemeteries are located together. Other times, an off-site funeral home is used and the body is transported to the cemetery. The two places I visited had the mortuary adjacent to the cemetery.

At the first M/C, I discovered that a simple burial with a small graveside service and the least expensive casket, cost nearly $14,000. The cost of flowers, clergy, obituaries, pamphlets, a full memorial service, and a more-ornate casket, can add thousands of dollars. I was shocked at $14,000+. Sticker shock.

I thought, "Who can afford a $14,000 funeral?" Even if you can afford it, it's a lot of money.

A week later, I visited the newer, smaller, M/C outside of Tucson. At that location, a similar burial cost $7,000. Half the price. Saving $7,000. Wow. That's quite a price range. After the sticker shock at M/C A, $7,000 seemed do-able.

Lest you think that cremation is affordable, I'll share those costs with you too. At M/C A, a simple cremation, when you take the ashes home with you, begins at $1500. Interring the ashes in an urn garden adds at least $1000. A ceremony in the mortuary is an additional cost. The grand total for a funeral/cremation runs about $5000. Interestingly, caskets are also sold for cremations. I'm not sure why a full casket is necessary, but they can cost several thousand dollars.

At M/C B, the cost of a simple cremation, when you take the ashes home, is $800. A cremation plot, a space in the memorial wall, and an upgraded urn, extend the price (but I didn't ask about these costs).

Wow. Who knew? I'm glad I shopped around a little. I learned so much. These ballpark figures give you an idea that visiting more than one M/C can save thousands of dollars.

Did you realize that funerals were so expensive?

You can share your experience with me by sending an e-mail to


9:35 am mst

Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Quote from Kat

I pulled the name from the drawing for the chakra-balancing pendant. The winner is Sonia E.! Congratulations, Sonia.


Quote from a Psychic - Kat Riegel

If I had one wish for humanity, I would wish that people could be more open-minded about things. It doesn't mean that people need to change what they do or how they act, but I would like them to be able to accept other people's ideas and think about them.

Kat Riegel
Animal Communicator
Interview available as a Kindle e-book  

11:22 am mst

Thursday, March 24, 2016

Jeff Sonnenburg

The Tucson Museum of Art Show was great. I sold a lot of artwork and met some fascinating folks. I want to thank everyone who stopped to chat with me. I met people all across the spiritual spectrum, from those who are psychic, to those who don't believe inter-realm communication is possible, to those who believe it's the work of the devil. It's nice to know that there is room for growth for all of us.

I want to mention two guys who stopped at my table. Each one had experienced a psychic moment, but had not fully understood what it was.

One guy told me that his mother had come to him in a dream and shared an important message. He didn't yet have the vocabulary to say that this was a "visitation." He said she seemed to be behind "a screen." I explained that the screen was often referred to as "the veil between the worlds." He said that she seemed younger than he remembered. I explained that on the other side, souls often appear at an age where they felt healthy and vibrant. This guy had shared his story with people who didn't know enough to take it seriously. I'm honored when someone shares their experience with me and I can help them understand why things appeared the way they did, and that these communications were real.

The other gentleman told me how he had thought about a friend he hadn't seen in years. Thirty minutes later, the guy had rung his doorbell. This is known as "synchronicity," and probably also ESP. This kind of alignment can be astonishing.

At the show, three people who were interviewed for this Project stopped by to say "hello," along with quite a few friends. So much fun!

More news:

1) The next Mystic Messengers Psychic Fair will be April 3 at the DoubleTree Inn on South Alvernon Road in Tucson, AZ. The Fair will run from 9 a.m. until 4 p.m.

2) I'll pull the winning name for the chakra-balancing pendant this weekend and announce it on Tuesday's blog post. Check the blog to see if you've won. Many people entered their name in the drawing at my last couple of events.

3) Several years ago, I interviewed Jeff Sonnenburg for this Project. About a month ago, Jeff passed away. In tribute, I want to share Jeff's story with you. The short version can be read right here. I'll put the full interview on the "Featured Interview" page for one week. If you knew Jeff, you may remember what a sweet guy he could be. He could also be a powerful psychic reader. I miss him already.

Jeff Sonnenburg - Psychic, Financial Advisor, ChildFinders*

Jeff Sonnenburg has many psychic talents. One of the things which sets him apart from other psychics is that Jeff is familiar with financial information and is very comfortable predicting the stock market. He predicts the financial markets every week. His predictions are based on both logic and intuition. He receives many kinds of traditional financial information (such as newsletters), then sifts through the information to recommend stocks. Interestingly, Jeff's Guides told him that if he did this work, he would not be allowed to invest in the stock market because it might skew his impressions.

Jeff had always known he had a gift, but it wasn't until he was in his late twenties that he met a mentor. She encouraged Jeff to do psychic readings on the street and in the subway station. She never wanted him to need any particular environmental setting to do readings. She didn't want him to need Tarot cards, pendulums, or a quiet place to work. She wanted him to be able to do readings in places where he could easily have been distracted. Jeff learned to focus so that nothing could distract his intuition.

Now, Jeff meditates and gathers information on his clients before readings. He puts about an hour of preparation into an hour of reading. He does a kind of automatic writing to ensure that he has information on the client prior to the session. He usually comes to the meeting with 3-5 pages of information to verify that he can pick up on the client. In addition, Jeff receives intuitive information during the session.

Jeff receives information on three levels, depending on the issue being addressed. The most basic level of information/energy is like a personal consciousness. If he hears a voice which sounds coarse, grounded and practical, the information provides answers to practical and minor questions. This is the level where people have the greatest amount of free will. For example, people have choices about the kind of car they want to buy.

Jeff calls the second level of information "Sphere of Influence." If the voice sounds a bit different, like a conversation, the information is coming from this second level. It is as if the information came from a group consciousness. This level provides answers about relationships, health, finances, and career. On this level, the person still has some choice over the future.

The highest level of information comes from the Holy Spirit. When Jeff connects to the Holy Spirit, the voice is extremely loud. This level of energy provides answers regarding life path and big decisions. When Jeff receives information without the client being present, it is most likely that he is getting Divine Will. The Divine Will predictions never change. They are certain.

Here is an example of how this works: According to Divine Will, the client may be destined for the experience of marriage. On the second level, there may be advice about the best spouse to select, but the person can choose from a few potential partners. On the first level, there are less-important choices, such as where to have the wedding ceremony. Jeff hears different voices giving advice on each of these levels.

In addition to private readings, Jeff has worked with the United Nations doing business, financial and political readings. He has also formed "ChildFinders," an organization of 200 psychics in eight countries who find missing children.

* This Psychic Snapshot is from the book, "My Psychic Search: discovering what psychics do, what psychics know, and how they can help us improve our lives." Jeff's full interview can be downloaded as a Kindle e-book as part of the "Psychics Speak" series.


11:34 am mst

Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Quote from a Psychic - Jeff Sonnenburg

Quote from a Psychic - Jeff Sonnenburg

I asked Jeff Sonnenburg how he was able to do readings. Did he hear voices? Did he see things? Jeff answered:

"I hear a very strong voice. I thought that everybody had that voice until I was about 19 years old. At that time, a psychiatrist told me that it was not normal to hear a voice."

I asked: Does it sound like your own voice or does it sound like someone else's voice?

"It depends on the level of the intuition. If it's kind of coarse, grounded and practical, it sounds like my voice. If it is a bit different, like a conversation, it is applicable to relationships and health. When I connect to the Holy Spirit, it is extremely loud and not my voice.

"I also see and feel things. However, I don't have much respect for 'feeling' things. It's empathic and it can be mis-interpreted. During a reading, I don't want to pick up on any major decision while a client is sitting in front of me. The person can project their hopes and fears and I may not be accurate. Instead, I will go back, check my intuition and call them with a 'clean' answer. I don't want someone else's body language or facial expressions to influence my answer."

11:05 am mst

Thursday, March 17, 2016

A Potpourri of Ideas


Today's blog post is a potpourri of ideas. I hope you find something in here which speaks to you.

1) Catching Up: Remember when I wrote the blog post, "Suspended between Life and Death" (February 18)? I am happy to report that my friend is recovering from surgery. It's a slow recovery, but moving in the direction of full health.

2) Last week, I opened the last box of My Psychic Search books. If you want one, come to this weekend's Tucson Museum of Art Spring Artisans Market. It will be a while before the books are reprinted. Gotta do my taxes first and make a bunch of corrections to the text - I found typos. :(

To prepare for the Museum show, I've made tons of Wild Girl! pins and artwork. A very good selection. The show starts tomorrow and runs through Sunday in downtown Tucson.

3) Jeff Sonnenburg, one of the psychics who I interviewed, passed away a few weeks ago. He had a wonderful connection to the non-physical world. A gift. I'll write more about him later. However, his passing reinforces the need to record these life stories. People don't live forever in their physical bodies - at least not yet. If you want to read my interview with Jeff, it is available as a Kindle e-book (Remember, you don't need a Kindle to read these e-books. They can be downloaded and read on computers, tablets, and phones.)

4) Last week, a Yogi walked into my husband's office. The Yogi gave my husband a short reading, shared some interesting tidbits, then asked for a donation to feed children at his school in India. The yogi's main message was to spend a little time with God everyday. Just like you need to feed your body every day, you also need to feed your soul.

Readings can happen anywhere. You don't always need to go to a psychic - sometimes they come to you.

5) Where are we going? Recently, I heard these ideas during a channeling session.

Spirituality is returning to civilization. Spirituality means experiencing life in a way which allows you to understand, control, and tap into your knowingness.

When your mind awakens and takes off, and your spirit recognizes the information which is coming in, there is no way to put the genie back in the bottle. To put the unknowingness back into your life. You are forever free. Forever your own person. Forever responsible for your thoughts and behaviors. The awareness of your thoughts is vastly important because you realize that you manifest your life and your destiny. You manifest your path as it feels right; as your curiosity pulls you. If you want to know the direction to grow, follow your curiosity.

There is no other destination than awakening.

People are going to take spirituality and mix it with every occupation on earth. For example, a farmer will be able to speak to plants and call in beings to watch over these plants. The farmer will talk to the sky and to water molecules to ensure rain. People will be able to talk to trees, and trees will be able to share the wisdom of their years.

Through personal manifestation, we create the things we touch, the clothes we wear, the people in our lives, the relationships we have, and the understanding of the repetitive nature of our choices. We can keep repeating, or we can learn.


That's all I've got for today. Happy St. Patrick's Day. Have a wonderful weekend.


11:31 am mst

Tuesday, March 15, 2016


Quote from a Psychic - Manifesting

Unconscious manifestation is what you wake up to every day. Unconscious, or subconscious, manifestation makes your planet and your solar system and your universe and your clothes and your coffee. Everything that happens everyday is manifested in your subconscious. It is an agreement of all sentient beings on this planet, including the trees, the rocks, and the plants. That is the manifestation that is going on automatically in your subconscious.

To manifest outside of your subconscious, is to manifest things: "I want a new car." I would suggest you say "new," otherwise you will get an old car. Know that it will happen. Sit back and do not think about it. Do not think, "Oh, I wonder if that manifestation is coming true?" Do not impact that initial burst of desire and it will come to pass.

You all know how to manifest. When you ask, let go, and allow all that is coming to you to be, without question, without taking it apart, without rephrasing your manifestation statement, it will be.


9:05 am mst

Thursday, March 10, 2016

Gary Wimmer
Meet a Psychic - Gary Wimmer

Gary Wimmer has been psychic his entire life. Using regular playing cards, he began giving readings in his 20s. Two psychic readings with astrologers confirmed his abilities and let him know that psychic ability would play a large role in his life. Then, early in his 30s, his psychic abilities zoomed out of control and led to a huge, near-death experience which illuminated all the possibilities of a Universal Mind. He saw that every possibility came about because it was part of this Divine Imagination. Through this beautiful experience, he learned not to fear death, or anything else.

In 1980, Gary met a woman who taught him to read stones, a technique called lithomancy. Since then, lithomancy has been Gary's main tool for psychic readings.

I interviewed Gary in July 2013. You can read our entire interview on the "Featured Interview" page of this website for the next two weeks. As part of the "Psychics Speak" series, the interview is also available for 99 cents as a Kindle e-book. After I've taken the interview down from this site, it will still be available as an e-book.

Gary spent most of his life in Texas, so be sure to read his part of the interview with a Texas drawl.

Let me know if you enjoy this interview.


10:43 am mst

Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Quotes from a Psychic - Gary Wimmer

Quotes from a Psychic - Gary Wimmer

Here are two quotes from Gary Wimmer:

"At every moment in time, every second, we get to decide if good is winning over evil in our own head. We get to decide if the glass is half full or half empty. If we take the proactive approach and say we are going to see the glass as half full, that gives us power. Seeing it as half empty depletes our power. It brings about the worst case. What's your choice? We all do that every second of every day. I may turn off the way I pick stuff up, but I never turn off my attitude about this being the only moment I have. I'm going to make it graceful."


"I'm pleased with everything life gives me. You know why? The alternative sucks.

"I've learned this. I'm somewhat of an optimist, but I've had my periods of worry, intensity, depression, and anxiety. I've learned to appreciate everything. If I don't appreciate it, and I can't do anything about it, I would drive myself crazy. It's my choice. I've learned so much about how people make choices in their lives. Choices and techniques are like a repertoire for life.

"I enjoy my psychic power. I enjoy it for me and I enjoy being able to help other people develop it. The more people know, the wiser their decisions. We will never know everything. I get curve balls all of the time, just like everyone else. We are supposed to. Life is supposed to throw you into situations which you wouldn't volunteer for had you known. You may have subconsciously volunteered, but not consciously. Are you going to bitch and complain, or are you going to realize that life is trying to teach you something? I should appreciate things and that is the way I choose to look at it. It's a choice. It's a learning process."

Gary Wimmer

10:49 am mst

Thursday, March 3, 2016

Overcoming Adversity - Part II

Overcoming Adversity - Part II

On Tuesday, I shared a conversation I had with John Hunter about overcoming adversity. Challenges are put in our way so that we have the opportunity to overcome them. This process accelerates our growth. What does it look like to overcome adversity? How do we know when we have turned the situation around? It may not look like what we think it should look like.

Overcoming illness might not mean a transformation to perfect health, but to health which is good enough to allow us to pursue our passions; or the mental strength to deal with the physical condition. It may look like prescription drugs for the rest of our life, or like a medical device attached to our body.

Maybe overcoming financial adversity doesn't mean being a millionaire, but realizing we can purchase all the things we need, if not all the things we want. Maybe it means realizing that emotional problems aren't really solved through "retail therapy." We leave that strategy in the dressing room, examine the actual problem, begin saving money, and develop modest financial security.

John says we create challenges to have the opportunity to turn them into positives. All my life I've looked at strategies for coping with a particular person/situation. I've tried avoidance, overriding my gut reactions so I don't retaliate, and developing patience. I've learned that there is a difference between avoidance out of dread, and avoidance for self-preservation. One is fear-based, while the other is a healthy separation.

We can try to find the silver lining in the situation. In my case, I realized that a strained relationship led me to be independent, competent, and curious about the "whys?" Why is life the way it is? Is there a bigger picture? Have relationships stretched across multiple lifetimes?

I talked to psychics for insights: Am I missing something? Is there a better way to look at this situation or a better way to handle it?

Recently, I read a book about paying to attention to our body's reaction to events. When we notice our visceral reactions, we understand situations more clearly and can see "what is." Once we do that, we can accept situations and stop trying to change them into something different. We no longer have to convince ourselves to "get over it," "make it work," or "try a new way to cope." It is what it is.

However, there is a tension here between accepting the situation as it is, and thinking we can overcome the situation. Which is it? Accept what is, or try to overcome it?

Maybe the result doesn't look like we think it will look. It may be simpler than we think. Making a positive out of it might not mean having a better relationship with a difficult person, or improving a situation. It might be as simple as accepting the situation, no longer trying to change it, and moving forward in our own life. Maybe success is realizing that no matter what the situation was, or how it may have shaped us, we can leave it behind and create a better life for ourselves and our families.

Overcoming physical or emotional abuse might not mean having a more-rewarding, cleaned up, relationship with the abuser (who has not changed). Instead, it may mean standing on our own, defending ourselves, and developing emotional health. It can mean putting distance between ourselves and the abuser, or understanding that this is the other person's lifetime to work through their issues, not our lifetime to develop a better relationship with them. Bless them, send them love, then get the heck out of there!

How do we know we have overcome a situation? When we have survived it, not passed the issue to our children, and found joy and love in our life. We are heroes. We stand strong. We have overcome adversity.

Have you overcome a difficult situation? Did it turn out the way you thought? I would love to hear your story. You can e-mail it to me at


1:53 pm mst

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Overcoming Adversity - Part I

Quote from an Intuitive - Overcoming Adversity

John Hunter told me that challenges such as serious illness are not random events. We create our lives. There is a reason we create illness. Having that kind of experience allows us to look at life and death, and the choices we are going to make. We can choose to create the life we want. We can find a reason to remain here. We can find more positive than negative.

I commented: The idea of creating our lives, and creating illness, is so big. It's too difficult to understand. Who would create illness?

John: We do it from an all-knowing perspective. We create this level of negative vibration for us to overcome. To overcome it, we have to create a positive scenario twice as strong. Then we can look at what we have achieved as a being. Not only did we take adversity, with its negative vibration, but we transformed it into a positive vibration. A positive possibility twice as strong, just to overcome and maintain. That is beautiful.

Once we do that, we can't go back. We achieved a positive manifestation that just blew the doors off of this negative vibration. We accepted the challenge to adapt, and created our ability to grow and expand. That is what we are naturally here to do. That is why it is so rewarding. That is why we create huge challenges. We think, "This will get my attention and I will have to make a decision to either manifest a positive future or outcome, or stay with the negative. Then I will have the consequences of it. I'll constantly be reminded of something I didn't finish."

We are here to learn and that is how we learn effectively: having choices with consequences, or choices with possibilities. We have to start training ourselves.

Gail: Or, just choose to leave.

John: If you leave, you will come back with another set of scenarios which are going to be even more serious, to really get your attention.

Gail: That's scary.

John: It's only scary at a low level. Ultimately, the system wins. Eventually, we adapt. We grow. We understand that we create our path. That is beautiful. One life of creating a positive path and achieving it, is worth a thousand lives of negative struggle. That is what is beautiful.

John Hunter

1:40 pm mst

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